Midlife Moxie with Nicole Hate

Episode 28: When Solitude Stops Being Selfish: Learning to Be Alone in Midlife

• Nicole Hate • Season 1 • Episode 28

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Life is short. We get one shot on this spinning rock. So why are we still waiting for permission to want what we want?

In this episode, I'm talking about solitude—why midlife women desperately need it and why it feels so terrifying to claim it. I'll share the story of going to a concert alone six weeks after my dad died, and the unglamorous truth about eating lunch in my car just to get 30 minutes of peace in corporate.

We'll talk about the difference between solitude and loneliness, the lies that keep us from claiming time alone, and why your "selfish" desire for space is actually essential. Plus, practical ways to find solitude in a busy life when hiding in your car or locking the bathroom door is the only option.

If you've ever felt guilty for wanting time alone, or wondered if needing space makes you a bad mother/wife/daughter/friend—this episode is for you.

Because sometimes, sacred exits begin in parking lots. You just don't know it yet.

Topics covered:

  • Why midlife demands solitude (and why our bodies revolt against constant performance)
  • Solitude vs. loneliness: knowing the difference
  • The lies that keep women from claiming alone time
  • How to handle difficult feelings that arise in silence
  • Practical strategies for stealing moments of solitude in a busy life


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